The NFL, Domestic Abuse and My Books
NFL players arrested for various types of domestic abuse
I don’t normally talk much about what’s going on in the news. I figure the world gets plenty of shouting, opining and people otherwise commenting on the state of the world. And sometimes it makes more sense to just listen. Occasionally, however, something happens and I find I just can’t resist pulling out my soapbox.I’m guessing pretty much everyone has heard about the NFL players arrested for various types of domestic abuse by now. After all, even I’ve heard about it, and I don’t even watch football. And while I don’t care much about football, I do care a lot about the issue of domestic abuse.
This probably comes as no real surprise to anyone who’s read my books. Maggie was an ardent supporter of a domestic abuse shelter in Gratification; Gossiptackled the subject of sexual abuse of underage girls while its heroine, Jamie, tried to help a teen-age prostitute; and Mindy, the heroine of Redemption, was a survivor of sexual and emotional abuse.
Issues of abuse are woven throughout the storylines of the entire Desire Never Diesseries. As in real life, the abusers come from all walks of life. Scott, whom Preston Tyler adopts in Gratification, comes from a drug-addicted mother on welfare, while Darla Arnold, from Gossip has suffered abuse at the hands of her publishing tycoon father. Redemption takes a look at the effects abuse can have on its victims as Mindy, Scott and Darla, all abuse survivors, now struggled with addiction.
HelpGuide.org says the following:
“Domestic violence can happen to anyone, yet the problem is often overlooked, excused or denied. This is especially true when the abuse is psychological, rather
Than physical. Noticing and acknowledging the signs of an abusive relationship is the first step to ending it.”
This link to their website provides more in-depth information, signs of abuse and resources and information:
It’s not always easy to hear about this issue, or read about it, or even think too much about it. Perhaps because the betrayal of trust is so great. Perhaps because it’s uncomfortable to realize the darkness one human being is capable of inflicting upon another; upon those whom they claim to love. Perhaps the solutions to the problem just seem so far out-of-reach.
I even had one reviewer of Gossip caution that those who did not have the stomach for sex scandal should maybe not read my book. But maybe that’s the best reason to read my books (of course, I like to think people should read my books because they’ll like them. Shining a light on a problem is usually the first step in dealing with it. It’s when we allow dark deeds to remain hidden that they fester and grow. So I write about domestic abuse in my books. I want people to know these things happen. I want people to be as outraged as I am. And maybe, just maybe, if enough people know about these things, and enough people get outraged, we can one day stop turning on our televisions and hearing about things like an NFL domestic abuse scandal.
That’s my hope anyway.
Thank you, all, for indulging my little soapbox moment. Now put that smile back on your face, because there’s still a lot of good left in the world, too. Like books!! J